This changed my motherhood journey!
Hey mama!
It's Teagan from The Feel Good Mum Hub, and today I want to share something that's been a game-changer for me: surrendering in motherhood. Before you leave with an eyeroll, let me explain!
Trust me, it's not about giving up; it's about finding peace amidst the chaos. Let's dive in, shall we?
My Struggles with Control
Like many of you, I always thought I had to have everything under control. From the moment my little one was born, I felt this immense pressure to be the perfect mom. I wanted everything to go according to plan—sleep schedules, feeding routines, milestones. But the reality? Motherhood is anything but predictable.
I used to be very controlled, meticulously planning every detail of our days. I liked control because it gave me a sense of security and predictability in an otherwise unpredictable journey. Holding onto control was exhausting. I found myself constantly fighting against the natural flow of things, leading to more frustration and resistance. It felt like I was in a constant battle, and guess what? The more I tried to control everything, the harder it became.
One day, after yet another sleepless night and an exhausting day of trying to stick to my strict schedule, I realized something had to change. I was missing out on the joy of motherhood because I was too busy trying to control every little detail. That’s when I decided to let go. It wasn’t easy, but it was necessary.
Tips to Let Go and Surrender
Embrace the Chaos: Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and beautifully chaotic. Accept that things won't always go as planned, and that's okay. Embrace the mess, the noise, and the unexpected moments.
Focus on the Present: Letting go of control means being present in the moment. Instead of worrying about what needs to be done next, focus on what's happening right now. Enjoy those giggles, the snuggles, and even the tantrums—they’re all part of the journey.
Trust Your Instincts: You know your child better than anyone else. Trust your instincts and listen to your gut. It's okay to let go of the books, the blogs, and the advice from well-meaning friends and family if it doesn't feel right for you and your child.
Find Your Tribe: Surround yourself with other mums who get it. Sharing your struggles and triumphs with a supportive community can make all the difference. Knowing you’re not alone in this journey is incredibly comforting.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Letting go of control doesn't mean you're failing; it means you're human. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small, and forgive yourself for the days that don't go as planned.
Balancing Control and Flexibility
Even though I've learned to let go, I still utilise organisation, plans, and structure in my daily life. Having a framework helps me feel grounded and prepared. The difference now is that I'm not afraid of things not going to plan anymore. When things go wrong, I lean in instead of resisting. It’s incredibly empowering to navigate through those moments with grace and adaptability.
Surrendering in motherhood has allowed me to find peace and joy in the everyday moments. It's about accepting that I'm not perfect, and that's perfectly okay. My days are still messy, and plans still go awry, but I've learned to go with the flow and cherish the beautiful chaos that is motherhood.
So, to all my amazing mum friends out there—let's support each other in letting go. Embrace the unpredictability, trust yourself, and remember, you are doing an incredible job.
Love you all,
Teagan xx